I talk beauty & mental health

Thursday, 20 September 2018

Coping With Holiday Blues & Other Issues


Even though I've made progress mental health wise, I haven't really mentioned the fact that I've actually been struggling loads since we've been back from our Summer holidays. Overall, I do have a more positive mindset and outlook on life, but my attitude in the last month or so has been very up and down. I'm cranky and angry, I've been crying a lot and I have been having those headaches where the pain stretches all the way down to the back my neck. It's almost as if I've been PMS-ing this whole time and it's causing me a lot of anxiety. At first I told myself - oh these post holiday blues are so real - but it seems like they are never ending and I'm just a little confused as to how I haven't managed to pick myself up again.
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Monday, 17 September 2018

Essence Insta Perfect Foundation Review

Essence Insta Perfect Foundation

Essence Cosmetics recently released a new foundation in their makeup line: the Essence Insta Perfect Liquid Makeup Foundation. It is available in 9 different shades and is super affordable as it only retails for just under 5 bucks. Essence promises that their new #instaperfect makeup has a strong matte effect, with buildable coverage that is long lasting and waterproof, yet lightweight. They also encourage you to mix and match their new foundation, if necessary, to attain your perfect shade. I'm very happy Essence finally decided to be more inclusive with their range this time, they're not quite there yet but it's a start. They previously would only have a maximum of 4 different colors. I do have to ask, when will they finally decide to simply call their foundations a 'foundation'? What does liquid makeup even mean?
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Friday, 14 September 2018

Why Self Care Isn't Doing What You Love


Something that has been very close to my heart, ever since I started going to therapy, is self care. Growing up I didn't know what self care was, I wasn't allowed to practise self care and when I did I was expected to feel guilty about it. Everything in my life always needed to have a greater purpose, needed to be about others, about helping people and being compassionate. As a result I've never really been compassionate or understanding towards myself. I never felt good enough as a human being and I thought I didn't deserve anything. In fact, when I would be kind to myself the guilt would be so extreme that I would either become sad or angry, or both. Through therapy I'm finally learning that self care is okay and that it is in fact a necessity. Today, I want to touch upon the way self care is often portrayed as an excuse to go shopping or simply spend loads of money. That is not what self care is, to me at least. There is a very important aspect of self care, especially amongst bloggers, that is not or rarely talked about, especially when it comes to those who struggle with their mental health.
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Tuesday, 11 September 2018

NEW Pixi Highlighter Duo Review

Pixi Highlighter Duo Review

Today marks a special day on my blog, I'm going to be reviewing my first ever Pixi makeup products! I received a gorgeous PR parcel in the mail by the Pixi team and now that I've had time to play around with the samples, I cannot wait to share with you my experience trying products from this amazing brand. The Pixi Glowy Gossamer Duo Highlighters definitely were the items in the parcel that caught my eyes immediately, I'll be reviewing the duos called Subtle Sunrise and Delicate Dew, here are my thoughts!
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Saturday, 8 September 2018

Confessions Of A Stay At Home Girlfriend


I got major baby fever at 23, I really wanted a child, I really wanted to be pregnant. Now at 28, not so much anymore. I got scared. I got a little reality check. I learned a lot whilst being in therapy, about family dynamics, about being neglected as a child, about being humiliated and emotionally abused. Today, I am afraid of being a bad mom, about making the same mistakes my parents did. I'm afraid of potentially having to deal with severe postpartum depression and for all the changes my body would go through. At 23 I didn't even give that a second thought, how physically and emotionally demanding it is for a woman, to carry and have a child. On my blog I write about mental health, beauty and more recently a lot of lifestyle topics - such as quitting birth control and body confidence. I like my body now, a lot, and the fact that I didn't enjoy or appreciate it when I was younger makes me sad but also makes me admire and respect my body so much more today. I do have to admit that, somehow, thinking of having children has turned into something that just isn't worth it to me. Not anymore. I struggle with depression and anxiety, which has caused me to be in a lot of physical pain, and now that I've overcome so much - I just can't imagine having a family.
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Saturday, 1 September 2018

10 Open Hearted Answers Of A Blogger

Urban Decay Lip Mousse Blogger PR

Being part of the blogger community is absolutely amazing. The opportunities are endless and the people you meet along the way are incredibly smart, weird, interesting, different, passionate, which all combined brings so much creativity, dispersed all over the internet - for you to find makeup reviews, food, fashion advice, personal stories and so much more. But with all the highs certainly come as many lows and a lot of drama and tea. I was challenged by Laurence from Dresses & Daisies to answer 10 questions about my experience as a blogger and be as honest and raw as possible. We're touching on rather sensitive topics such as earning money with your blog, collaborations gone wrong and our thoughts about the blogging community today. Since she is a fellow Belgian blogger this tag was originally created in Dutch but I've done my best to translate every question as accurately as possible! Here we go. 
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Thursday, 30 August 2018

L'Oreal Paradise Extatic Waterproof Mascara Review & Comparison

L'Oreal Paradise Extatic Waterproof Mascara

Having small hooded eyes and being a person that isn't particularly savvy about fake eyelashes or lash extensions, mascara is an absolute must have. It is a product that instantly opens up my look and makes me seem more awake and put together. Mascara wise I'm always looking for the next best thing. My lashes need to look like they're going to outer space and they need to stay there, all day. I have the original L'Oreal Paradise Extatic Mascara but for some reason it didn't really impress me. It got lost in my makeup collection, never to be seen again - until L'Oreal decided to send me their newest edition: the waterproof version. I feel as if they knew I wasn't convinced and they wanted to try me again. The L'Oreal paradise Extatic Waterproof Mascara has the exact same look as the first one except that the tube is blue which, to be completely honest, I'm really into because it makes it very obvious what the mascara is for and what it is supposed to do!
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Wednesday, 8 August 2018

Day In The Life Of A SAHG For Real This Time


It is only recently that I started being more comfortable with my lifestyle, that I've been accepting of my situation and the fact that everyone has their own story. That I don't owe anyone an explanation. That I don't need to feel ashamed of the fact that I don't work and haven't worked in the past 4 years. That I'm working on myself and that's okay. Being a stay at home girlfriend is nothing to be ashamed of. I've written an article like this before - only that it wasn't really a day in the life of a SAHG, it was a pep talk and one that was very much necessary, as most articles about this topic have quite a negative vibe about them. So here we are, a day in my life as a SAHG, for real this time.
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Tuesday, 24 July 2018

NEW Makeup Revolution Concealer Review

Revolution Conceal & Define Concealer

Have you heard? There's a new drugstore concealer taking over everyone's beauty routine! The Revolution Conceal & Define Concealer: a cruelty free, vegan and full coverage formula that not only keeps it easy on your wallet, retailing for just 5 bucks, but also has been crowned as the ultimate high end makeup dupe. I needed to know, is this truly a must have? Will it reach cult beauty status or is it just a makeup trend? Let's have a look!
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Tuesday, 10 July 2018

On Successful Adulting, Being In Love, Planning Holidays & Turning 28


Topshop Bella Straw Tote Bag

I've only just come back from a city trip to London and my brain is already on to the next big thing: I'll be turning 28 in about a week and after that my boyfriend and I are going on holiday to Southern Italy, starting with Naples. I'm excited but also very nervous. This holiday was planned long in advance, which is something we usually don't do, because this time around we also had to book a petsitter, who'll be taking care of our bunny Chloé whilst we're gone. The level at which I have been adulting I don't think has ever reached this altitude. I've changed so much in the past months that I can't quite believe it, with loads of ups and downs for sure but I'm growing steady. Among other things, me and my boyfriend just celebrated our 6 year anniversary and I hadn't given it much thought up until now, 6 whole years is just wow! Time goes so fast when you're close to being 30.
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Saturday, 16 June 2018

Embracing My Small Breasts This Summer With Hunkemöller The Doutzen Stories Collection

Swimwear For Women With Small Breasts

I didn't always love my small breasts like I do now. As a young girl, and a late bloomer, being flat chested was something that I had a hard time dealing with. I was bullied for it, called names. I already wasn't having the best time at school, so the fact that also my body was a reason for others to bother me didn't help. It wasn't until I had boyfriends who never had anything negative to say about my A cup that I was comfortable in my own body. Yes, I owe a lot of my body confidence to boys. I realise that sounds like a weird thing to say but it's the truth. Those boys then left but my body confidence never did, it only improved. Today's post is about embracing your small beautiful boobies in collaboration with Hunkemoller for their Doutzen Stories Collection. The best part about this collab? That this post will be a crazy trip down memory lane! Hunkemoller is where I got my first brahs as a young girl. I still have one of them to this day, it's a red sporty kind of bra. Maybe a little TMI but it is still in great condition, I promise! 
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Saturday, 9 June 2018

When You Haven't Worked In 4 Years Due To Depression And Anxiety

When You Have Not Worked In Years Due To Depression And Anxiety

My last 3 therapy sessions have been really hard - productive, but hard. There seems to be a lot more to talk about and to dig into than I initially thought. I recently posted my 2 year therapy update and even though I'm still struggling mental health wise, I've been a lot happier which is why, I think, I've been underestimating my sessions in the past months. Work is something I talk about a lot, with my therapist. The fact that I really want to work and that I haven't worked in nearly 4 years. That I haven't really done anything apart from blogging actually. Not to say blogging is easy but I sometimes wish I would have done more. Taken some classes maybe, short courses, study for a driver's license .. Even a simple hobby or some volunteering would have been fine but I've been too scared to show my face in any of those places. The anxiety that comes with trying new things is enormous. Being afraid of something new runs in my family. We are creatures of habit and even though that is okay - I feel like in our case it is debilitating.
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Saturday, 2 June 2018

The 2 Year Therapy Update

Mental Health Update

I'm going to be honest, even though they were weekly appointments, 2 years of therapy flew by very quickly. I can't believe it's been this long. I remember my first appointment like it was yesterday. Having said that I still go to therapy now, twice a month, which was a decision I made. I felt like my sessions were being more productive that way. My therapist happened to be absent quite often at the end of last year and it actually suited me well. With progress comes a lot of changes and that not only in my personal life but also on my socials. It's been rather quiet on my blog lately and I wanted to talk about that. I feel as if I took a huge leap in my recovery, that I've made some very big improvements but maybe too much too fast. I'm overwhelmed and I'm in a period again where I'm just really tired and I haven't been productive at all as a blogger. The best part of this situation, surprisingly, is that I've finally figured out why - it's because I can't accept that I can succeed.
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Friday, 25 May 2018

What It's Like Being A New Bunny Momma

New Free Roam Bunny

Chloé is potty trained. She's a very affectionate little baby bunny that loves to cuddle and play - a lot. She understands the words kisses, ball, come here and of course her name, Chloé. She's about 9 months old and really enjoys taking long naps under the couch and pushing her Disney princess ball around in our living room. Yes, she is a free roam rabbit, or almost completely free roam. We still keep her in a big cage at night because we've only had her for a little over a month. Chloé wasn't something we had planned, she was an impulse buy at a pet shop.
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Friday, 18 May 2018

Urban Decay Hifi Shine Lip Gloss Review

Urban Decay Hifi Shine Lip Gloss

A product that I've really grown to love these past weeks are the newest lipglosses by Urban Decay named the Hifi Shine Ultra Cushion Lip Glosses. I received a little PR parcel from the brand a while ago and I couldn't wait to try them. They sent me 2 shades, a beautiful brown nude called 1993 and a plum color called Backtalk. Honestly, they couldn't have sent me more perfect shades, it's literally all I wear, nudes and plums! Urban Decay swears these are the holy grail of glosses with an ultra shiny formula, that is cushiony soft, long lasting and super comfortable.
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Wednesday, 25 April 2018

My Experience Coming Off The Pill

Stopped Taking Birth Control

I've been off my birth control for about 3 years now and I have to say that quitting probably was one of the best decisions I've made in my twenties. Even though it was a great method to prevent pregnancy, for me personally, I started to feel things weren't 'right' anymore at some point. I couldn't really pin point as to why but considering I had been taking the pill for already a good 8 years, I figured that it wasn't actually such a crazy idea to maybe stop taking it. At that age, I was 24, I also started getting worried about the effects of taking the pill on my reproductive organs as a whole. I just wanted everything to be okay. Apart from my boyfriend, I didn't actually have a lot of support when it came to quitting the pill. Not from my doctor and not from my family. Everyone thought it was weird, why come off the pill if you don't want to make babies?
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Thursday, 12 April 2018

Review: Embryolisse Lait Crème Concentré For Acne Prone Skin

Review Embryolisse Lait Crème Concentré For Acne Prone Skin

Ever since I started struggling with acne I've been having a lot of trouble finding a good moisturiser that doesn't make my skin break out or cause some kind of irritation. Even the ones targeted for acne prone skin aren't that great of a fit for me, in fact, they usually just make my skin situation so much worse. The Embryolisse moisturiser is a product I've always heard great things about - especially that it's a must have in the kit of a lot of makeup artists, mostly used as a makeup primer. As someone who does suffer from acne, loves makeup, but doesn't necessarily have oily skin this seemed like something I should try. Because the brand Embryolisse is not that readily available here, I decided to order mine on Boozyshop. Here's what I think about it. 
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Friday, 6 April 2018

How I Edit My Blog / Instagram Photos

How I Edit My Blog / Instagram Photos

Finding the perfect way to edit your pictures isn't always that easy. I know it wasn't for me. As a blogger it is important to keep your content interesting, we want those clicks, we want those likes. Not (just) for the numbers - but to make sure that our hard work is seen, that our stories are heard and that our writing is shared, pinned and reposted. Having content that is visually pleasing is the goal of every blogger, it's the first thing people see when they visit your blog or website. Of course not all bloggers focus heavily on their photography but it is a great way to set your blog apart from others and attract more readers. I've been asked many times about how I edit my blog / Instagram photos so here it is, all my editing secrets spilled in one consistent post.
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Friday, 23 March 2018

Feeling Confident Without Makeup

feeling confident without makeup

I started wearing makeup fairly late, I was almost 20 I think. Of course I experimented with some mascara, eyeliner and little bit of lipstick when I was a teen - but base products such as foundation, concealer, powder, blush... those were all foreign to me. Today, I cannot imagine myself not wearing any makeup. I've gotten so used to having this flawless complexion that I wonder how I used to feel so confident without it. I'm kinda glad makeup techniques changed so much over the years though. I remember my teachers piling on orange foundations and bright pink blushes like there was no tomorrow. Now it's all about the no makeup makeup look which, to be completely honest, probably requires more makeup than any other look, but it really shows how styles and trends have evolved over the years. There are times when I feel completely fine leaving the house without a full face and there are times when there’s just absolutely no way. Feeling confident without makeup for me has become a little bit tricky.
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Saturday, 17 March 2018

My In-Law Horror Story 2018 UPDATE


I'm not sure how many of you remember this story, as it happened almost 3 years ago, but to say that I am traumatised by the whole situation it very much an understatement. "Back in May of 2015 a family gathering was planned in my apartment, for my boyfriend. He was turning 30 and his family wanted to fly over (from Italy to Belgium) to celebrate. I didn't end up celebrating much of that birthday as I had gone completely insane already days before that. The way I was treated by my in-laws, in my own house, was absolutely horrific." This is what I wrote then, followed by a detailed description of everything that went down. I've been wanting to update that story for a while already but it's taken me some time as it is, still, a very sensitive matter. I haven't seen or talked to my in-laws since and to be honest I'd like to keep it that way, at least for another while.
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Wednesday, 14 March 2018

Doing Your Best Isn't Working Until You're On The Verge Of A Mental Breakdown

Jolien Nathalie

I recently came across this tweet saying 'doing your best isn't working until you're on the verge of a mental breakdown'. That is something I need to remind myself of every single day. I'm one of those people that tries too hard. To the point where I just go crazy. It's one of the reasons why I've been inconsistent with blogging lately. It's taken me some time to understand my boundaries and to be able to think rationally, to distinguish what I'm feeling from what is reality. I realised how much time and effort I put into actually wanting to feel good. How careful I am, how I force myself to listen to my body. How many rules I set so I can simply take a deep breath and tell myself everything is going to be okay.
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Monday, 19 February 2018

Start Today Not Tomorrow

Start Today Not Tomorrow Jolien Nathalie

I've been thinking a lot about how I'd follow up on my come back post 'We Need To Talk' because, to be completely honest, you guys - I was shooketh, as a true millennial would say. I'm a little nervous putting this up as I genuinely did not expect my previous post to be as successful as it was. You were all so supportive and I cannot thank you enough. 2018 got off to a rough start: new beginnings, new goals, new years resolutions, loads of changes, it all scares the absolute shit out of me. It makes me doubt the things I do and not only do I doubt myself when it comes to my blog but I also doubt you - and for that I feel like I owe you a bit of an apology.
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Monday, 5 February 2018

We Need To Talk

We Need To Talk Jolien Nathalie

So, I stopped blogging for a while. That happened. Then a lot of other stuff happened and then I realised I'm basically just trying to figure out what my life is at the moment. What I want to do. What I would like to be. Who I would like to be which, sadly, is what I've been doing for as long as I have been breathing I think, for as long as I can remember. I beat myself up for it, all the time. It makes me sad that I don't know what to do. That I don't have goals, or pretend I don't have goals, or think I pretend I don't have goals. I've been struggling a lot these past months and it hurts, so what I do is try to control the things around me. My house has been looking real neat ever since. My hair too. And my spending habits have made a huge shift.
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