I talk beauty & mental health

Tuesday, 10 July 2018

On Successful Adulting, Being In Love, Planning Holidays & Turning 28

Topshop Bella Straw Tote Bag

I've only just come back from a city trip to London and my brain is already on to the next big thing: I'll be turning 28 in about a week and after that my boyfriend and I are going on holiday to Southern Italy, starting with Naples. I'm excited but also very nervous. This holiday was planned long in advance, which is something we usually don't do, because this time around we also had to book a petsitter, who'll be taking care of our bunny Chloé whilst we're gone. The level at which I have been adulting I don't think has ever reached this altitude. I've changed so much in the past months that I can't quite believe it, with loads of ups and downs for sure but I'm growing steady. Among other things, me and my boyfriend just celebrated our 6 year anniversary and I hadn't given it much thought up until now, 6 whole years is just wow! Time goes so fast when you're close to being 30.
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Saturday, 16 June 2018

Embracing My Small Breasts This Summer With Hunkemöller The Doutzen Stories Collection

Swimwear For Women With Small Breasts

I didn't always love my small breasts like I do now. As a young girl, and a late bloomer, being flat chested was something that I had a hard time dealing with. I was bullied for it, called names. I already wasn't having the best time at school, so the fact that also my body was a reason for others to bother me didn't help. It wasn't until I had boyfriends who never had anything negative to say about my A cup that I was comfortable in my own body. Yes, I owe a lot of my body confidence to boys. I realise that sounds like a weird thing to say but it's the truth. Those boys then left but my body confidence never did, it only improved. Today's post is about embracing your small beautiful boobies in collaboration with Hunkemoller for their Doutzen Stories Collection. The best part about this collab? That this post will be a crazy trip down memory lane! Hunkemoller is where I got my first brahs as a young girl. I still have one of them to this day, it's a red sporty kind of bra. Maybe a little TMI but it is still in great condition, I promise! 
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Saturday, 9 June 2018

When You Haven't Worked In 4 Years Due To Depression And Anxiety

When You Have Not Worked In Years Due To Depression And Anxiety

My last 3 therapy sessions have been really hard - productive, but hard. There seems to be a lot more to talk about and to dig into than I initially thought. I recently posted my 2 year therapy update and even though I'm still struggling mental health wise, I've been a lot happier which is why, I think, I've been underestimating my sessions in the past months. Work is something I talk about a lot, with my therapist. The fact that I really want to work and that I haven't worked in nearly 4 years. That I haven't really done anything apart from blogging actually. Not to say blogging is easy but I sometimes wish I would have done more. Taken some classes maybe, short courses, study for a driver's license .. Even a simple hobby or some volunteering would have been fine but I've been too scared to show my face in any of those places. The anxiety that comes with trying new things is enormous. Being afraid of something new runs in my family. We are creatures of habit and even though that is okay - I feel like in our case it is debilitating.
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Saturday, 2 June 2018

The 2 Year Therapy Update

Mental Health Update

I'm going to be honest, even though they were weekly appointments, 2 years of therapy flew by very quickly. I can't believe it's been this long. I remember my first appointment like it was yesterday. Having said that I still go to therapy now, twice a month, which was a decision I made. I felt like my sessions were being more productive that way. My therapist happened to be absent quite often at the end of last year and it actually suited me well. With progress comes a lot of changes and that not only in my personal life but also on my socials. It's been rather quiet on my blog lately and I wanted to talk about that. I feel as if I took a huge leap in my recovery, that I've made some very big improvements but maybe too much too fast. I'm overwhelmed and I'm in a period again where I'm just really tired and I haven't been productive at all as a blogger. The best part of this situation, surprisingly, is that I've finally figured out why - it's because I can't accept that I can succeed.
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Friday, 25 May 2018

What It's Like Being A New Bunny Momma

New Free Roam Bunny

Chloé is potty trained. She's a very affectionate little baby bunny that loves to cuddle and play - a lot. She understands the words kisses, ball, come here and of course her name, Chloé. She's about 9 months old and really enjoys taking long naps under the couch and pushing her Disney princess ball around in our living room. Yes, she is a free roam rabbit, or almost completely free roam. We still keep her in a big cage at night because we've only had her for a little over a month. Chloé wasn't something we had planned, she was an impulse buy at a pet shop.
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Friday, 18 May 2018

Urban Decay Hifi Shine Lip Gloss Review

Urban Decay Hifi Shine Lip Gloss

A product that I've really grown to love these past weeks are the newest lipglosses by Urban Decay named the Hifi Shine Ultra Cushion Lip Glosses. I received a little PR parcel from the brand a while ago and I couldn't wait to try them. They sent me 2 shades, a beautiful brown nude called 1993 and a plum color called Backtalk. Honestly, they couldn't have sent me more perfect shades, it's literally all I wear, nudes and plums! Urban Decay swears these are the holy grail of glosses with an ultra shiny formula, that is cushiony soft, long lasting and super comfortable.
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Wednesday, 25 April 2018

My Experience Coming Off The Pill

Stopped Taking Birth Control

I've been off my birth control for about 3 years now and I have to say that quitting probably was one of the best decisions I've made in my twenties. Even though it was a great method to prevent pregnancy, for me personally, I started to feel things weren't 'right' anymore at some point. I couldn't really pin point as to why but considering I had been taking the pill for already a good 8 years, I figured that it wasn't actually such a crazy idea to maybe stop taking it. At that age, I was 24, I also started getting worried about the effects of taking the pill on my reproductive organs as a whole. I just wanted everything to be okay. Apart from my boyfriend, I didn't actually have a lot of support when it came to quitting the pill. Not from my doctor and not from my family. Everyone thought it was weird, why come off the pill if you don't want to make babies?
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Thursday, 12 April 2018

Review: Embryolisse Lait Crème Concentré For Acne Prone Skin

Review Embryolisse Lait Crème Concentré For Acne Prone Skin

Ever since I started struggling with acne I've been having a lot of trouble finding a good moisturiser that doesn't make my skin break out or cause some kind of irritation. Even the ones targeted for acne prone skin aren't that great of a fit for me, in fact, they usually just make my skin situation so much worse. The Embryolisse moisturiser is a product I've always heard great things about - especially that it's a must have in the kit of a lot of makeup artists, mostly used as a makeup primer. As someone who does suffer from acne, loves makeup, but doesn't necessarily have oily skin this seemed like something I should try. Because the brand Embryolisse is not that readily available here, I decided to order mine on Boozyshop. Here's what I think about it. 
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Friday, 6 April 2018

How I Edit My Blog / Instagram Photos

How I Edit My Blog / Instagram Photos

Finding the perfect way to edit your pictures isn't always that easy. I know it wasn't for me. As a blogger it is important to keep your content interesting, we want those clicks, we want those likes. Not (just) for the numbers - but to make sure that our hard work is seen, that our stories are heard and that our writing is shared, pinned and reposted. Having content that is visually pleasing is the goal of every blogger, it's the first thing people see when they visit your blog or website. Of course not all bloggers focus heavily on their photography but it is a great way to set your blog apart from others and attract more readers. I've been asked many times about how I edit my blog / Instagram photos so here it is, all my editing secrets spilled in one consistent post.
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Friday, 23 March 2018

Feeling Confident Without Makeup

feeling confident without makeup

I started wearing makeup fairly late, I was almost 20 I think. Of course I experimented with some mascara, eyeliner and little bit of lipstick when I was a teen - but base products such as foundation, concealer, powder, blush... those were all foreign to me. Today, I cannot imagine myself not wearing any makeup. I've gotten so used to having this flawless complexion that I wonder how I used to feel so confident without it. I'm kinda glad makeup techniques changed so much over the years though. I remember my teachers piling on orange foundations and bright pink blushes like there was no tomorrow. Now it's all about the no makeup makeup look which, to be completely honest, probably requires more makeup than any other look, but it really shows how styles and trends have evolved over the years. There are times when I feel completely fine leaving the house without a full face and there are times when there’s just absolutely no way. Feeling confident without makeup for me has become a little bit tricky.
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Saturday, 17 March 2018

My In-Law Horror Story 2018 UPDATE


I'm not sure how many of you remember this story, as it happened almost 3 years ago, but to say that I am traumatised by the whole situation it very much an understatement. "Back in May of 2015 a family gathering was planned in my apartment, for my boyfriend. He was turning 30 and his family wanted to fly over (from Italy to Belgium) to celebrate. I didn't end up celebrating much of that birthday as I had gone completely insane already days before that. The way I was treated by my in-laws, in my own house, was absolutely horrific." This is what I wrote then, followed by a detailed description of everything that went down. I've been wanting to update that story for a while already but it's taken me some time as it is, still, a very sensitive matter. I haven't seen or talked to my in-laws since and to be honest I'd like to keep it that way, at least for another while.
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Wednesday, 14 March 2018

Doing Your Best Isn't Working Until You're On The Verge Of A Mental Breakdown

Jolien Nathalie

I recently came across this tweet saying 'doing your best isn't working until you're on the verge of a mental breakdown'. That is something I need to remind myself of every single day. I'm one of those people that tries too hard. To the point where I just go crazy. It's one of the reasons why I've been inconsistent with blogging lately. It's taken me some time to understand my boundaries and to be able to think rationally, to distinguish what I'm feeling from what is reality. I realised how much time and effort I put into actually wanting to feel good. How careful I am, how I force myself to listen to my body. How many rules I set so I can simply take a deep breath and tell myself everything is going to be okay.
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Monday, 19 February 2018

Start Today Not Tomorrow

Start Today Not Tomorrow Jolien Nathalie

I've been thinking a lot about how I'd follow up on my come back post 'We Need To Talk' because, to be completely honest, you guys - I was shooketh, as a true millennial would say. I'm a little nervous putting this up as I genuinely did not expect my previous post to be as successful as it was. You were all so supportive and I cannot thank you enough. 2018 got off to a rough start: new beginnings, new goals, new years resolutions, loads of changes, it all scares the absolute shit out of me. It makes me doubt the things I do and not only do I doubt myself when it comes to my blog but I also doubt you - and for that I feel like I owe you a bit of an apology.
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Monday, 5 February 2018

We Need To Talk

We Need To Talk Jolien Nathalie

So, I stopped blogging for a while. That happened. Then a lot of other stuff happened and then I realised I'm basically just trying to figure out what my life is at the moment. What I want to do. What I would like to be. Who I would like to be which, sadly, is what I've been doing for as long as I have been breathing I think, for as long as I can remember. I beat myself up for it, all the time. It makes me sad that I don't know what to do. That I don't have goals, or pretend I don't have goals, or think I pretend I don't have goals. I've been struggling a lot these past months and it hurts, so what I do is try to control the things around me. My house has been looking real neat ever since. My hair too. And my spending habits have made a huge shift.
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