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Friday, 17 June 2016

Therapy⎜the good, the weird and the odd

When I think about my therapy I know it's doing me good, but there's also a couple of things that I just can't wrap my head around. Here's an update about the good, the weird and the odd about my therapy sessions. 

I've never been asked if I have addictions for example, wether I do self harm or even how I just get through my day. They've never told me I'm actually suffering from depression, anxiety or anything else. Every time I bring up terminology like 'mental', 'unstable' or 'mental illness' it's waved away like I've mentioned words of doom (it's getting better though). Taking medication has never been discussed either, even though it's not something I am considering I still find it odd. The only things I do know is that I'm considered normal, and that my feelings are valid. I don't feel normal, in fact, I seriously feel like I'm disabled. I'm normal but yet not fully functional. During my therapy sessions I'm asked about my childhood all the time and I'm starting to question the methods and the outcome. 

I understand that professionals working in mental health care don't like to diagnose or label a person out of fear they will actually almost completely start behaving such way, but I've noticed that here, In Belgium at least, they are also hesitant to tell you what seems pretty straightforward, like depression and anxiety. I've been at home for more than 2 years and even though I'm doing much better now, I don't see how my therapist can tell me I'm normal when I have mood swings that unable me to do regular things, sometimes for weeks at a time. It's frustrating to say the least, especially because it would be such a relief. I would finally be able to mourn my past, understand myself in a way that I don't do now, take control of my life and be able to be among people. When I told a health care professional I'm a highly sensitive person he shook his head. Honestly, if people like this would just say they don't know, that would make me feel much better, it shows that you're human and honest with your patients, because being highly sensitive is simply a trait and not something that needs to be diagnosed. The day I found out I was highly sensitive, I had closure. I finally understood why I've felt so vulnerable for so long and it makes me a happier person today. 

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  1. The thing about therapist is that they come with a preset mindset, they have a predetermined believe about religion, about which psychology mentor they prescribe to. They come with a already built in prejudice and the particular type of training depending on what school or schools they attended. Add to this their own particular background history that shaped them.

    Now in we walk and many a time it won't be a good fit. So we have to be proactive in communicating to them that you have to find someone who can help you with your particular needs. It may take a few different ones before you find the one you have a comfortable fit with, who doesn't just listen with their mind already set on a diagnosis, but one who when they listen, they actually"hear" what you are saying to them.

    You will know within your heart and self when it happens.

    1. What annoys me the most is that they don't want to share in any way, shape or from what is going on and think it's fine to just do the talking. I feel like I have a good relationship with my therapist but maybe you are right, as you say they use their own goggles to look on your case and that takes away objectivity. I think that happened with previous professionals I talked to :)

  2. Maybe it's them and you could ask for a second opinion... I've never been to a therapist, but I've clearly had Anxiety and Depression in the past and I'm sad to see you're having similar symptoms... I've talked to people who have visited therapists though, and some of them felt like the first ones didn't work for them and when they changed they felt a lot better. The fact that they don't want to label sounds weird to me though, because in Spain what's usual is to see therapists over-labeling and over-diagnosing (at least, that's what I've seen from working with kids). Take care of yourself, I hope you'll be better soon!

    onmywayacqua.blogspot.com | Acqua xx

    1. I understand what you mean, here a lot a kids are labeled having ADHD simply because they have trouble finding their place in the current education system. Sounds like I need a vacation in Spain ;) thanks for your advice, I really appreciate it :) Xxx


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