- He doesn't make time for you
Ever had a guy telling you you're so great and beautiful and awesome, introduce you to his friends and family, but at the same time not actually make time for you or want to be exclusive? Girlfriend, that is a big red flag, you're certainly not a priority, you're a booty call! Which is fine if that's what you want, but not when you feel like you cannot reach out to him because he claims 'it makes him feel like he has the responsibilities of a boyfriend'. Yes he does enjoy the time he spends with you but it doesn't go any further than that. Who doesn't want to feel special or being taken extra care of? Who doesn't want to feel wanted? The reason why he might want to make you think he's interested, when you're the one reaching out, is because he enjoys the attention you're giving him and he enjoys turning you down also. Introducing you to his family and friends was casual and makes him feel like he's in control. Feeling like you need control in a relationship is not a good relationship.
- He doesn't respect your feelings
When someone insults you for the way you feel or share your feelings, it means they do not want to deal with your crap. They'll make you feel bad for feeling bad. It's called shift blaming and is not something a boy that likes you should or would be doing. I shared with a guy once that I felt like he was keeping me on a leash, to which he responded that it was my problem. He clearly had no respect for my feelings and that is not okay. This might seem like a minor issue but don't forget that it's the smallest things that have the biggest impact.
If you've shown a need for communication and he ignores that time and time again, he is not into you, no matter how nice he is when you hang out. How hard is it these days, with all these social media apps, to let someone hear from you? It's not. Yes your guy could certainly be busy, but no one is always busy. If you've shared that hearing from him on a regular basis is important to you and that bothers him, you're not looking for the same thing and it's not a relationship worth putting time and energy in. They're not putting in the effort so why would you? Stop running after him, he's chasing nothing other than his d*ck.
- He doesn't remember what you've talked about
When you share something that is important to you or you're passionate about and your guy has forgotten about it, that usually is not a good sign. Especially when a lot of the same questions pop up in conversations from his side. He's not paying attention to you and that is simply because he is not interested (in what you have to say). Of course he doesn't need to remember everything, who does, but when it happens often you can be sure he wants your mouth to be doing something else. Feeling like you're forgettable is not a message you want to receive from someone you like.
- He reaches out to you for no damn reason
Guys who do this have a bit of a control issue. They don't want you but they do want to know that you still want them. I guess it's a nice ego boost. I absolutely hate guys that reach out to talk about, literally, nothing. It's a waste of time and it makes you feel bad because he didn't reach out to meet up again, get laid, to talk about exciting happenings or share some things about his life. He just wanted to check on you, or actually, keep you in check. Some guys will do this even without realising it, say you're considered a friend. A friendship needs work from two sides, not one, and it shouldn't make you feel like you're being kept in the dark. This is where I'd recommend shutting down all lines of communication, it sends their stupid mind game to hell. Check mate.
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