About People That Bring You Down⎜How To Delete Unnecessary Negativity From Your Life



I'm not saying cutting people off is a healthy way of dealing with situations, but it can help in some cases. It's something that works for me, most of the time. I didn't cut people off until I was 19 I think. I had found out what the real definition of friendship was and what genuinely good people were like. I finally found a place where I belonged and a bunch of people I adored and that adored me just as much. I wondered what I had been doing all those years, seeking acceptance from the ignorant people I was surrounded with. I realised they had never been worth my time in the first place, so I started deleting every single person that had hurt me, from my life, one by one. 

People that had bullied me, disappointed me terribly, had never taken me seriously, people who enjoyed shift blaming and refused to take responsibility for disrespectful behaviour and overstepped boundaries time and time again. People who, in general, just don't have good intentions and feed on drama like it's candy. Cutting people off and never talking or meeting with them again, for me, is about letting go and deleting unnecessary negativity from my life. Preventing it from coming back and letting go of the pain that comes with having those people around. It's not about ignoring a situation and not wanting to deal with it, it's about being selfish for once and think about what makes you a great person and what and who brings out the best in you. I'm a person that holds grudges, and that for a very long time. Forgiveness is something that is far out of reach for me at this point in my life and I've come to the conclusion that that's okay. Forgiving people is important, but doing it at your own pace is better, much better.

Q: Do you tend to cut people off? How do you delete negativity from your life? Are you a person that holds grudges?


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  2. It is indeed a challenge to pick good friends hun! I do not know why people think that not taking someone seriously is acceptable, I think it is because they feel too good to have something to learn!
    I think you are right everything comes at own speed in life, and eventually also positivity, forgiveness and a zen-like attitude come around, I mean also Justin Timberlake had that song didn't he? Hahahahaha, wtf I am blabbering!
    Xxx Becca

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    1. Hahaha, you always manage to make me laugh, thanks Becca! :D Xxxx

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  3. It can be difficult to get rid of some people, as they just love bringing other people down and will cling on to your misery. I think the first step is also being happy with yourself, and when you get there you can cut out the things/people that dont make you happy.

    Elaine | Some Of My Favourite Things

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    1. True, I think that should come from both sides though :) people who bring you down for being yourself are not good when you would like to be happy with yourself in the first place. Thank you for you feedback ;) I realy apprciate it! Xxxx :D

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  4. For long time I felt like I have to please others and really everybody who come my way. I am 37 now and I dont have many friends, but value the ones that I have. I prefer animals to people :-)
    It is interesting to read about your mental health issues. It reminds me of myself so much. The sad thing is, that it seems like depression is part of our lives and we can try to cope, but you never get rid of it completely :-(
    However, it is good that you have really supportive boyfriend so you can stay home and get better. My hubby is also supportive and we do our best to navigate through life together.
    I am sending much love your way. xx

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    1. I'm very much the same, because animals are such sensitive beings they can have a very good impact on us on a lot of different levels. My therapist recently told me I try to please others more than I do myself, and that I should turn tables, it's so different with animals :) Thank you for your kind message and take care! <3

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  5. I feel as though this post popped up at the right time for me, or at-least I was in the right place at the right time... I certainly am someone who holds grudges, but only where I feel it's necessary, because lets just say some things are just totally unforgivable.

    I have one friend, one friend that I see regularly and who's been my friend since Playschool/Nursery, luckily for me he also became my boyfriend haha. I don't think we should go out of our way to please people, who are only going to knock us down - get rid of them certainly x

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    1. I agree with you about some things being totally unforgiveable and it bugs me that some people confuse it by saying not forgiving is holding on to the situation. Some things are just so toxic there's no point :) I'm happy you're boyfriend is a great influence in your life! Definitely a keeper ;) Xxx

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  6. I can really relate to this, thank you! I find it hard to keep grudges so a little reminder that the people I miss are total assholes means I don't miss them anymore haha! Great post :)

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    1. You're welcome honey ;) Stay strong! <3 Xxx

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  7. When I was younger I would always hold a grudge, but as i got older I realized that those people are not that special for me to give them that much attention even if it was holding on a grudge.

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    1. That's so true, I still get emotional about some situations though when I'm confronted with that person though :)

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