Honest About Beauty

Monday, 14 December 2015

A Comment For A Comment, A Like For A Like


I spend an enormous amount of time online and I follow more people than I am actually followed by myself on all of my social media accounts combined. I follow creators because I genuinely like their content, I don't comment for a comment and I don't like for a like. If I ever made you think that way I can tell you I am very much allergic to bullshit and I consider my time precious. Have I ever attempted doing it? Absolutely! Funny enough it just got me extremely bored.

It's amazing when bloggers are being supportive of each other but it's annoying when it becomes borderline spamming and purely for the sake of traffic. I'd love for readers to comment on my posts more often but I'd rather have no comments at all then colleagues commenting without being interested in reading the actual post. Guess what, even if you try to make it look like you're not spamming, which a lot of bloggers surprisingly don't even care about, it still looks like you're spamming.

Twitter and Instagram are the worst, I am constantly confronted with bloggers who spend their time following people for a follow to then unfollow you the next day when they've seen no interaction, seriously? It's disrespectful and you have no appreciation for other content creators. Building a base of organic readers is extremely difficult, I'm confronted by it on a daily basis, but this way of looking for an audience goes overboard and I'd love you to seriously consider to change this blogging culture and strategy in 2016.

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  1. Op blogs lees je soms een comment waardoor je zeker weet dat diegene het artikel niet gelezen heeft. Zo dom komt dat over! Ik ben geen blogger, maar soms lijkt het ook wel of veel bloggers alleen maar voor andere bloggers schrijven. Net zoals winacties vaak door bloggers worden gewonnen...
    Ik lees jouw artikelen heel graag, comment alleen bijna nooit omdat ik zo veel blogs lees.
    groetjes sabrina

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    1. Hey sabrina, bedankt voor je reactie! Je hebt helemaal gelijk, en dat van die winacties heb ik ook gemerkt. Ik snap gewoon niet hoe je daar als blogger voldoening uit haalt. Heel jammer! :)

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  2. Ik heb mij hier ook wel eens over verwonderd en ben blij dat ik de 'ik volg jou want jij volgt mij-volgers' kwijt ben. Ik schrijf liever voor de echte lezers.

    Mooi blog dit.

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  3. English.. Nederlands? :P

    I agree with your sentiments about the blogging culture. I do notice that with my own blog as well. I comment on other blogs because:

    • I love the dressing style which usually (but not always) involves impossibly high heels :-P
    • I like what the author is writing and especially the way she/he is writing
    • the post is a combination of the two previous points.

    With some of the fashion bloggers, I notice that they only comment on my blog-post after I commented on a post of theirs.. leaving me to wonder whether they really liked my post or that they felt obliged.

    I'm just wondering what can realistically be done about this. For example, I know that I would never comment on a blog-post which features an outfit that I don't like. But there are plenty out there who will write "Nice outfit" just to make sure that someone will reciprocate.

    Ahh.. too much thinking for a Monday, I still have to work 4 more days! More coffee! :P

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    1. Nederlands is fine but in English I don't risk making 'dt' mistakes haha Your high heel obsession is fab, I still don't know how you do it though! I have one pair of blue stilettos and they haven't gone out in a while, I'm such a pussy :P Sometimes I'm guilty of commenting after someone comments on my blog, but usually because I simply forgot about them. I use bloglovin' to keep track of other blogger's content and sometimes that shit just does not work properly, it skips sooo many posts. Have a nice week, don't binge too much on coffee ;) Xxxx

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  4. Dankie tog iemand sê dit! I admire your strong character!

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  5. I will usually return a comment, but you don't have to ASK me for it. I usually find something I like, and I often like other bloggers' posts on facebook, which others rarely do, OR they write sth like "I liked 5 of your posts, now you have to like 5 of mine". That's disgusting.

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    1. You're kidding?! I'd be so mad and ask what ya bloggin' for? Thanks so much for your feedback :)

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  6. I agree and being true and honest by following who truly inspires you should be the basic of any social media! I do hate the mobile version of blogs that makes it such a nuissance to comment! I wish that part would be better, and i'd comment way more, since I'm always on my tablet or my phone..great rant, I agree with all of it!

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    1. Aaaw thanks so much! I really appreciate it :) I always do everything by the use of my computer so I don't have that issue but you're right, the mobile version most definitely needs improvements! Xxx

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  7. Hi Jolien!

    I 100% agree with what you've written and strongly agree that this mentality amongst bloggers, needs to change. I myself had joined various group to help grow the readership of my blog and other social media platforms, but it was incredible inorganic and annoying to have to follow x number of posts, like for like, etc. The social media world has become a ridiculous popularity contest and one of a "numbers game." I've decided that I'd rather have organic relationships with my readers and followers, rather than playing the following games or going as far as buying followers. Like you, I will comment on a post because and follow others because I genuinely like what they have to say/share. Thanks for writing this post!

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    1. Hi Aliyyah :D Thank you so much for your comment! I agree, this popularity contest spreads like a disease and it's sickening. It also gives (new) bloggers a bad image if you ask me. Have a nice day honey! :) Xxx

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  8. SO true! I have an Instagram follow/unfollow app to track how many followers I gain versus lose and the most random people will follow you and if you don't follow back they unfollow. Or even better, if it's an account you genuinely like and you follow back and then a few days later they unfollow you thinking that you won't notice. So annoying!

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    1. That stuff honestly drives me nuts, I hate it so much. I tweeted about it once wondering how people even find the time to do that and a guy responded that software is sometimes used to do follow and unfollow 0_0

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  9. I completely agree! If someone leaves a comment on one of my posts I always take the time to check out their blog and if I like a post, I leave a comment. I have no time for spamming people or doing 'like for likes' I'd rather have one person who is genuinely interested in my writing and wants to read my blog than 1000 who follow me just for a follow back!

    Sophie x | Libertine Journals

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    1. I do the exact same, it's really late here now though, so I will check out your blog tomorrow ;) :D :P #lol Thank you for checking out my post, I really appreciate it! Xxx Greetings from Brussels and goodnight!

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  10. I agree with this so much! I have a fairly small following, but I'd rather have that than have a bunch of people following me just because I'm following them. Numbers mean nothing if you don't have people who are actually engaged in your content.

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    1. So true, I've seen a lot of that lately. A good blogger with good content, tons of followers but no engagement. To be honest sometimes that discourages me as a blogger :/ Thanks for checking out my post and tweeting about it :D Xxxx

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  11. This is an incredibly concise but absolutely real post and I am behind you 100%! How did the blogging world turn into that? I swear when I started out 4 years earlier it was less about publicity than it is about writing/posting what you're passionate about. This has to be said and I hope many will read this. Isn't it just sad to keep doing this? Doesn't that just diminish one's own quality? Why should we make an ultimatum instead of trusting our own content and let it shine through what we do?

    Well done. Thanks for writing this!
    P.S: Just in case you'd be interested to keep in touch, I'll leave a link to my blog
    Alive as Always

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    1. Thank you for your feedback! I think it has a lot to do with the marketing industry. As soon as ads got involved blogging lost it's authenticity. It's more about creating a business and a brand, which is great, but bloggers seem to be trippin' only on numbers nowadays, just like companies do, and that's sad :) Thanks for leaving your links, makes it easier for me! XXx

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